It can be easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of divorce. Although you and your partner are fighting a battle, it is important to protect your children at all costs.
As a parent, you will have to consider many factors like custody arrangements and splitting financial responsibilities for each child. Many parents express that the most difficult part is telling their children about their divorce.
Here is some advice on how to prepare your children for your divorce.
Practice What You Are Going to Say
The last thing you want to do it make your child(ren) feel like they should be worried or scared. Practicing what you are going to say beforehand will not only calm any nerves you may have, but it can also help reassure your child that things are going to be ok.
It can be a good idea to draft out a co-parenting plan with your ex-partner, so you can determine living arrangements and work together to try and keep things the same for your children. This will help give them reassurance into what is going to happen during/after the divorce process.
It is best to avoid blame during divorce proceedings. You should not speak negatively about one another in front of your children as it can create a hostile environment for them. Try to shield your children from any conflicts or arguments that may arise, as this can frighten them and triggers feelings of anxiousness.
Find Good Support
Divorce is hugely difficult, and some children may struggle to cope with it more than others. It can be hard to feel like you’ve got full control over what is happening but reaching out and seeking professional advice can take off some of the strain. It can be extremely useful to find a good child custody attorney who can help guide you in the direction of what is best for your children.
Manage Behaviours Effectively
Children can experience a lot of different emotions during a divorce. There may be times where you are faced with a spout of anger or bad behaviour. Understanding and good discipline are essential in these circumstances. You should make sure that you are providing love towards your child. These situations are the perfect opportunity for you to encourage your child to open up about their feelings. You can highlight why certain behaviours are not acceptable. By working together, you can find alternative solutions towards feelings of anger and help manage certain behaviours.
Look At It Through Your Children’s Eyes
It might sound simple but it is something that so many parents forget to do. Take a step back from time to time and look at the bigger picture. Your children didn’t want their parents to separate, and they may feel like they’ve played a part in it. They may be scared that they will lose you so just remember that it is important to let them talk about how they feel about the situation. Your children could seek a lot of comfort if they feel their feelings are validated.
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